The reality of being Trans and British

Disclaimer - This is philosophical and political in nature, no sexy stuff here I'm afraid.

I just had the urge to write briefly about what it is really like being transgender in the UK.

Short answer? It's rough.

Much has been made by the UK over the controversy of the Qatar World cup and the onelove armbands and whilst I personally disagree with the LGBT laws in that region, I find the arrogant lecturing of the UK to be disgusting; why?

Because being LGBT, especially Transgender in the UK is a gruelling experience. We face a constant barrage of hatred, from random members of the public, 'enlightened' politicians and most fervently, the media. From the obvious right wing media all the way to the hard left, British Transgender people are demonised as being unhinged, violent and disrespectful; almost to the point of being sub-human, a threat, especially to women.

All my life I have cared about women's rights, equal pay, equal opportunity and I always will. I also know I am a trans woman, not a woman, there is a difference and it must be respected. But this does not make me inferior nor superior and absolutely not a threat to them. It is a disgraceful argument which the British media use daily to stoke hatred toward the trans community.

Britain boasts haughtily of how inclusive and diverse it is and yet there are no British Trans:

Politicians
Television presenters
Executives
Sports stars
Artists
Newspaper writers
Literary or television characters

Just to name a few. We have no major voice, nobody given the fair platform to give our own side of the story. The transphobic elite of Britain have all of the control and yet we, the ones with no nationwide platform, are the threat?

In Britain, transgender people are alarmingly at risk of domestic abuse, random hate crime attacks and recieve far less pay then cis people for doing the same job; and yet we are labelled as threats to society.

For the record I don't agree with the wider transgender community on all issues and this is another huge problem we face in Britain. What little voice we do have is drowned out by those who shout loudest, who inevitably are the most hard line of the trans community.

Transgender people like me with more nuanced views never get heard; it's in equal measure infuriating and heartbreaking. I fully appreciate every trans person who does stand up for our rights and even more so, I truely love every cisgender person who defends us from wrathful bigotry too.

You will never know how much I respect and admire you for your selfless courage.

I have always believed there are cis men, cis women and transgender people, three separate expressions of self identity. Each one being separate from the other and deserving of respect and understanding...and that's the problem...

In Britain, the pompous imperial relic of a nation, a nation capable of such wonderful and atrocious acts, which I want to love but cannot fully, us transgender people, all unique, all fallable, are not given respect and are purposely misunderstood by a spiteful antiquated elite. We are not people in Britian; we are a problem.

Thank you for reading my musings, what do you think? Do you agree with me or do you think I'm wrong on this one? I'd love to hear your opinions of the matter.

Anyways, don't worry, it's back to showing off my curvy body in kinky ways! Have a lovely day.
发布者 EmbrixBBW
2 年 前
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 7 月 前
Emmatrans4trans : Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to it .
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Emmatrans4trans
Emmatrans4trans 7 月 前
Thanks for posting this. It’s wonderful to find such an even handed, compassionate account of the trans experience. Wonderful! Emma  
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jennyforall
jennyforall 2 年 前
We have several friends that are Transgender and we know the emotional ups and downs they are going through. Supporting you is not an option, but an obligation.
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
jennyforall : Gentle, that's a really good word for it babe, i just want equality that's all. Thanks for reading and supporting us  
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jennyforall
jennyforall 2 年 前
Transgender people, are gentle people, who care about other people and who would like other people, to care about them. People who need people, are the luckiest people.
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alex6931
alex6931 2 年 前
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hantsal
hantsal 2 年 前
EmbrixBBW : Thank you so much for your reply!  Warm hugs
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
hantsal : Thank you so much for reading this! We shouldn't have to make highly risky decisions in whether to come out or not, it shouldn't even be an issue. It shows the ignorance of the masses when they don't even realise how difficult it is coming out, let alone living out. I truely hope you find the courage to come out in time, but just know deep down you will always be beautiful and who you know you are ♥ 
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hantsal
hantsal 2 年 前
Thank you so much for posting this.  I agree with you whole-heatedly; it's tough and this has always been, for me, a major hurdle moving forwards with what I really want to do.  I must complement you because you are so much braver than I am 
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
hottvcarole : Yes it seems gay is very fashionable these days, which is both a good omen and very frustrating. Thanks for reading!
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hottvcarole
hottvcarole 2 年 前
I think you are absolutely correct, trans does not feature in the public eye or media. While Gay males are all over the Tv and quite a few gay women. Would the general public like a Drag star reading the news or giving a weather report. Who knows. But they should. 
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
Donna8421 : You too babe ♥, yes it's getting better and worse simultaneously. It's a battle between people who live in freedom of expression of self and those who live in fear of anything different. But I won't give up, never will! 
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Donna8421
Donna8421 2 年 前
If you want a “good news” story, look up Dani Laidley. She was a tough Aussie Rules football player & coach who came out as trans a few years back when she was arrested & photos of her leaked by some cops. Her journey has been rough but the acceptance of Dani by our macho sporting community has been very encouraging. And the cops who leaked the photos were punished (if mildly). 
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Donna8421
Donna8421 2 年 前
Thank you for a well thought out post. I agree with a lot of what you say & it applies to Australia too. Things are improving but very slowly & mainly driven by more accepting younger people. However, anti-trans voices are also growing driven as a political tool by the right. The misogyny against women by the trolls of the internet is even more vile against trans-women - maybe because we dare to give up our masculinity. Stay strong & beautiful ❤️
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
steffielace : Thanks
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steffielace
steffielace 2 年 前
Good point well made.
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
Newspycam : Thank you ever so much for taking the time to read and reply such well thought out replies. I agree with what you are saying, it is going to take a long time to be accepted. I had hoped that the population would have learned from the struggles gay people faced for acceptance and would have made the nation more open to diversity. Alas, it appears not, but you are correct, forcing it down peoples' throats isn't the answer. I am heartened by the younger generations being more open minded though, seems change is happening gradually. 
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Newspycam 2 年 前
Finally... There are lots of men who fancy transgender women and cross dressers. I am one. For us it is partially a fetish and our sexual attraction does not validate you or any transgender person. Validation, if you need it, must come from the wider society. BUT our interests are also served best by better acceptance of Trans folk so most often, we are likely to be sympathetic to your cause.
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Newspycam 2 年 前
Oh - Point two has gone walkabout... It was that homosexuality took a very long time to become broadly accepted. Transgenderism is more complex and harder for the wider population to understand. Be visible, be yourself but don't expect a lot of people to even understand you. Work on the people you know and work to make your immediate environment more trans friendly.
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Newspycam 2 年 前
Thirdly: Trans folk will always be a small minority. You have the same rights as everyone else. Nobody has the right to demand how others think. Any minority working towards acceptance from a majority needs to work with that majority. Question, test and point out poor thought certainly but don't demand anyone changes their minds. Let that happen slowly and maybe fewer will become entrenched into Anti-trans sentiments.
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Newspycam 2 年 前
Let me start by applauding you for posting this here. I would also suggest you think about posting it through other social media but NOT linking your identity to the one you use here. Transgender issues are frequently dismissed and anyone working (or hobbying) in "sex work" will be immediately dismissed for both.
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
Jamesfun31 : That's a good outlook to have: an independent mind, thanks for reading. Plenty of ass on the way!
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
Rufusstone123 : If people were able to talk to trans people and see trans role models, so many of the unfounded fears would be dispelled so quickly for so many.
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Jamesfun31
Jamesfun31 2 年 前
Myself ,I agree and disagree with many people and subjects though all fields, as i think of myself as open minded and will listen to all before I speak. Nobody should make others feel ashamed or uncomfortable because who they are.  Your comments are are strong and sensible, i thank you for your comments,  Now being a bisexual horny git can't wait to see more of your ass.
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Jamesfun31
Jamesfun31 2 年 前
Myself ia
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Rufusstone123
I think you are absolutely right. The trans community really needs more understanding and support from the government and people in general need to put away their prejudices. No one should ever need to explain or feel uncomfortable being exactly who they want to be. 
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
samanthasatine : Likewise 
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samanthasatine 2 年 前
EmbrixBBW : feel free to stay in touch xxx
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EmbrixBBW
EmbrixBBW 出版商 2 年 前
samanthasatine : I really hope so, we need greater visibility within society. Until then we will keep being stigmatised with little resistance. All i want is equality, nothing more, nothing less. Thanks for reading
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samanthasatine 2 年 前
maybe we should lobby our MPs more to support the transgender community, thanks for writing and sharing and maybe some high-profile transgender people will let themselves be known in their own spheres of work
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