Getting Started with cuckolding
Get Started and stop dreaming about it. You will have the sex life you both truly want.
Take things slowly! Before you actually do anything, including looking for a bull, you should have plenty of conversations.
They might go something like this:
Talking about cuckolding as dirty talk during sex or a fantasy only
Discussing hypotheticals such as who, where, and how it would go down
Talking about why it’s appealing and what’s holding you back
Researching common rules/boundaries and where to find a bull
Describing your ideal situation and what it would do for either of you. These true sex stories from real people may give your some inspiration.
Looking for a bull online but not making contact
Then, you can dip your toe in by contacting someone who is interested in being a bull without making plans. From there, you plan to meet. The next step is meeting in person to get a feel for the sexual chemistry and discuss safety.
Once you’re sure you’re interested in cuckolding and have met someone, you can ease into the activities. This can involve:
Having drinks and flirting/watching your partner flirt
Dancing, kissing and making out without explicit sexual touching
Sexual touching over the clothing. 22 great foreplay tips.
Going or letting your partner go with the bull to someplace where sex can happen
Having sex or watching them have sex
These steps may not always happen in order or in specific locations. For example, you might meet someone once and then schedule a later date for sex at a hotel. Or you might meet someone in a hotel bar and stay there while he goes upstairs with your wife.
Throughout the entire process, you want to move slowly. Take tentative steps and check in frequently. This might be a simple “You okay?” when someone goes to get a drink or a debrief after meeting someone or sex.
You can stop or pause after each of these steps without feeling bad or guilty. Anyone who makes you feel bad about wanting to stop, including your partner, is wrong. Don’t feel bad about not wanting to spend more time or proceed with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable (or has violated your boundaries). Warn others if you think it’s appropriate.
How to Find a Bull
Friend Versus Stranger
Some people ask someone they know to be the bull. However, issues can arise with jealousy when you know the person, just like with threesomes.
Plus, it could harm your friendship.
In-Person Bull Hunting
Bars & clubs – Some people recommend choosing a bar that is frequented by the kind of people you’d want as a bull. Of course, in doing so, you may be perpetuating stereotypes. You also may offend people who aren’t interested.
Any bar or club could be a good scouting location. Your female partner can start by chatting/flirting with potential partners, before either of you politely ask them if they’re interested. While some people might not be upfront about their cuckolding fetish, you should at least be clear that it’s only for sex and you’re married/unavailable for anything else. Many people would be upset to learn they had sex with a married person or for someone else’s kink.
Swingers club – If you have a local swinger’s club, it could also be a good option for finding someone. However, you might be surprised how easy it is to pick someone up at, say, Starbucks during daytime hours.
Once you’re established what you both want, you may also be able to find bulls through your community/network.
Online Options
You could also sign up for a dating site and say that you are specifically looking for men (or women) who are interested in cuckolding. However, the general public may not be very receptive.
Instead, you’ll find a few sites that exist solely for people in cuckold relationships, and you should be able to find someone there.
Some people start social media accounts where they show off their (wives’) bodies without faces. You can add your location to your bio and see if anyone is interested. Be careful not to post anything that would give away your identity or location, however.
Expectations
Keep your expectations realistic. You may not be able to find the hottest, strongest bull with the biggest dick. We’re talking about real people.
Choosing a Bull
Generally, lots of people are willing to step into the role, but you should choose wisely. Safety, chemistry, and privacy are all important concerns. Plus, some people may not actually have experience with cuckolding.
Just because you get a bite doesn’t mean there will be chemistry, either. It may not be important for everyone to be attracted to everyone else, but anyone who is having sex should definitely feel attraction!
How to Cuckold Safely
Physical safety is important, so discuss your STI status and you should share your most recent screening results with each other.
Use condoms – Bring your own just to be safe. You might also consider gloves or dental dams, depending on what you plan to do. Lube is also a good idea for safety and comfort.
Discuss boundaries – Boundaries are also important to safety. Decide what you will and aren’t willing to do. Lay it out plainly. You could even decide on a safe word if you want.
Never continue engaging with anyone who ignores or disrespects your boundaries.
Take things slowly! Before you actually do anything, including looking for a bull, you should have plenty of conversations.
They might go something like this:
Talking about cuckolding as dirty talk during sex or a fantasy only
Discussing hypotheticals such as who, where, and how it would go down
Talking about why it’s appealing and what’s holding you back
Researching common rules/boundaries and where to find a bull
Describing your ideal situation and what it would do for either of you. These true sex stories from real people may give your some inspiration.
Looking for a bull online but not making contact
Then, you can dip your toe in by contacting someone who is interested in being a bull without making plans. From there, you plan to meet. The next step is meeting in person to get a feel for the sexual chemistry and discuss safety.
Once you’re sure you’re interested in cuckolding and have met someone, you can ease into the activities. This can involve:
Having drinks and flirting/watching your partner flirt
Dancing, kissing and making out without explicit sexual touching
Sexual touching over the clothing. 22 great foreplay tips.
Going or letting your partner go with the bull to someplace where sex can happen
Having sex or watching them have sex
These steps may not always happen in order or in specific locations. For example, you might meet someone once and then schedule a later date for sex at a hotel. Or you might meet someone in a hotel bar and stay there while he goes upstairs with your wife.
Throughout the entire process, you want to move slowly. Take tentative steps and check in frequently. This might be a simple “You okay?” when someone goes to get a drink or a debrief after meeting someone or sex.
You can stop or pause after each of these steps without feeling bad or guilty. Anyone who makes you feel bad about wanting to stop, including your partner, is wrong. Don’t feel bad about not wanting to spend more time or proceed with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable (or has violated your boundaries). Warn others if you think it’s appropriate.
How to Find a Bull
Friend Versus Stranger
Some people ask someone they know to be the bull. However, issues can arise with jealousy when you know the person, just like with threesomes.
Plus, it could harm your friendship.
In-Person Bull Hunting
Bars & clubs – Some people recommend choosing a bar that is frequented by the kind of people you’d want as a bull. Of course, in doing so, you may be perpetuating stereotypes. You also may offend people who aren’t interested.
Any bar or club could be a good scouting location. Your female partner can start by chatting/flirting with potential partners, before either of you politely ask them if they’re interested. While some people might not be upfront about their cuckolding fetish, you should at least be clear that it’s only for sex and you’re married/unavailable for anything else. Many people would be upset to learn they had sex with a married person or for someone else’s kink.
Swingers club – If you have a local swinger’s club, it could also be a good option for finding someone. However, you might be surprised how easy it is to pick someone up at, say, Starbucks during daytime hours.
Once you’re established what you both want, you may also be able to find bulls through your community/network.
Online Options
You could also sign up for a dating site and say that you are specifically looking for men (or women) who are interested in cuckolding. However, the general public may not be very receptive.
Instead, you’ll find a few sites that exist solely for people in cuckold relationships, and you should be able to find someone there.
Some people start social media accounts where they show off their (wives’) bodies without faces. You can add your location to your bio and see if anyone is interested. Be careful not to post anything that would give away your identity or location, however.
Expectations
Keep your expectations realistic. You may not be able to find the hottest, strongest bull with the biggest dick. We’re talking about real people.
Choosing a Bull
Generally, lots of people are willing to step into the role, but you should choose wisely. Safety, chemistry, and privacy are all important concerns. Plus, some people may not actually have experience with cuckolding.
Just because you get a bite doesn’t mean there will be chemistry, either. It may not be important for everyone to be attracted to everyone else, but anyone who is having sex should definitely feel attraction!
How to Cuckold Safely
Physical safety is important, so discuss your STI status and you should share your most recent screening results with each other.
Use condoms – Bring your own just to be safe. You might also consider gloves or dental dams, depending on what you plan to do. Lube is also a good idea for safety and comfort.
Discuss boundaries – Boundaries are also important to safety. Decide what you will and aren’t willing to do. Lay it out plainly. You could even decide on a safe word if you want.
Never continue engaging with anyone who ignores or disrespects your boundaries.
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