True Lovers
How to find true love and keep it forever？
For those who haven't found it yet, they say it's a huge, complex, and difficult puzzle that requires all kinds of preconditions and coincidences.For those who have found it, they say it's very simple and you just need to be sincere and work hard to find it.
To be honest, I don't know the real and accurate answer. But by observing the history of human love, through my own emotional past, through the thrilling or insignificant love stories of countless people, and observing the various types of people I have met around me, I may be able to find some clues.
You know, personal opinions are always likely to be full of errors and biases, so this is just some of the things I've learned from living for the past 29 years. You can have different opinions, and that's fine. It's because of our differences that we can move forward.
You know, mathematics tells us that triangles are stable, so they are used in various applications in life that require extremely high stability, such as construction, electronic products, aerospace, etc. Therefore, lasting true love certainly also requires high stability, just like a triangle, which is composed of three conditional sides.
The basic side of this true love triangle is the economic foundation and material conditions of the two lovers, which is usually composed of income level, house, car, deposit amount and other things related to money.
We call it the material edge
On the top two sides, one side is made up of body structure, appearance and body shape. Usually including skull, height, muscles, skin, hair, small things that make people happy, etc.
We call it the outer edge
One side is composed of unquantifiable mental and emotional factors, usually including personality, character, hobbies, past experiences, family upbringing, stress resistance, etc.
We call it the spiritual edge
When a relationship has all three of these aspects, it will be extremely stable and can withstand many storms. In this case, it is easiest to find long-lasting true love.But when a relationship has only two sides, its stability is greatly weakened and it is very easy to break up.
There are usually three situations:
1: Only the material edge and the outer redge.
This combination lacks the most important prerequisite for love: spiritual and emotional factors, that is, true love itself. It is easy to break up due to difficulties such as loss of property, decline in material conditions, old age, infidelity, etc. This combination is common among the older generation, especially among the wealthy groups.
2:Only the material side and the spiritual side.
This combination is more stable than the other two situations because it has a material foundation as a guarantee. Therefore, the main challenge lies in dissatisfaction or imperfection in appearance and looks, which in turn causes damage to the mental edge.
But you know, there is no perfect person in the world, and everyone has more or less imperfections in appearance (the imperfections here refer to the imperfections considered by contemporary public aesthetics, which may be different in every era, region and country), so in fact this kind of love combination is one of the most common situations among human beings.
3:only the outer side and the spiritual side.
This combination is a bit like Platonic spiritual love, falling in love with each other because of the beauty and inner qualities of the other party, but because of the lack of the most important material foundation, it is easy to encounter disasters, so the stability depends on the control of the spiritual side by both parties and the later construction of the material side. This kind of love is very common among teenagers and the new generation of young people, but if you look at teenagers, it means that the spiritual side itself is unstable, so you know. In my opinion, this combination that can stick to the end of life is also a diamond-like love, which lasts until death.
Off topic: Personally, I personally like this kind of love that never redeems sins.xd
These are just sociological calculations. Love in real life is much more complicated than this, but they are also the most basic and common forms.
What I want to say is not that the missing aspect of your relationship will definitely match the calculated result. What I want to say is that if you want a sincere and long-lasting love: long-lasting true love. Then both parties should learn to analyze the actual situation of your relationship. And try to make up for the missing aspects through acquired aspects.
If you can't do it, or don't want to do it, then be prepared to face difficulties. When difficulties arise, it is common that one party is willing, but the other party is unwilling.
Of course, the above are other people's sociological observations, not mine. In fact, my view on love is very simple: if you encounter a big river, build a bridge; if you encounter a high mountain, dig a tunnel; if the environment is bad, build a shelter, and if there is no good solution, face the challenge together. If it really exceeds your ability to cope, then flee together. Going through everything together and sticking together is the most lasting and sincere love.
Marriage is the continuation and crystallization of love. It is essentially no different from love. Perhaps the only difference is that marriage has more lifelong responsibilities and commitments to the partner than love. And there are many people who do not want to bear or cannot afford this responsibility.
wish all those who are in true love find their other half soon.
For those who haven't found it yet, they say it's a huge, complex, and difficult puzzle that requires all kinds of preconditions and coincidences.For those who have found it, they say it's very simple and you just need to be sincere and work hard to find it.
To be honest, I don't know the real and accurate answer. But by observing the history of human love, through my own emotional past, through the thrilling or insignificant love stories of countless people, and observing the various types of people I have met around me, I may be able to find some clues.
You know, personal opinions are always likely to be full of errors and biases, so this is just some of the things I've learned from living for the past 29 years. You can have different opinions, and that's fine. It's because of our differences that we can move forward.
You know, mathematics tells us that triangles are stable, so they are used in various applications in life that require extremely high stability, such as construction, electronic products, aerospace, etc. Therefore, lasting true love certainly also requires high stability, just like a triangle, which is composed of three conditional sides.
The basic side of this true love triangle is the economic foundation and material conditions of the two lovers, which is usually composed of income level, house, car, deposit amount and other things related to money.
We call it the material edge
On the top two sides, one side is made up of body structure, appearance and body shape. Usually including skull, height, muscles, skin, hair, small things that make people happy, etc.
We call it the outer edge
One side is composed of unquantifiable mental and emotional factors, usually including personality, character, hobbies, past experiences, family upbringing, stress resistance, etc.
We call it the spiritual edge
When a relationship has all three of these aspects, it will be extremely stable and can withstand many storms. In this case, it is easiest to find long-lasting true love.But when a relationship has only two sides, its stability is greatly weakened and it is very easy to break up.
There are usually three situations:
1: Only the material edge and the outer redge.
This combination lacks the most important prerequisite for love: spiritual and emotional factors, that is, true love itself. It is easy to break up due to difficulties such as loss of property, decline in material conditions, old age, infidelity, etc. This combination is common among the older generation, especially among the wealthy groups.
2:Only the material side and the spiritual side.
This combination is more stable than the other two situations because it has a material foundation as a guarantee. Therefore, the main challenge lies in dissatisfaction or imperfection in appearance and looks, which in turn causes damage to the mental edge.
But you know, there is no perfect person in the world, and everyone has more or less imperfections in appearance (the imperfections here refer to the imperfections considered by contemporary public aesthetics, which may be different in every era, region and country), so in fact this kind of love combination is one of the most common situations among human beings.
3:only the outer side and the spiritual side.
This combination is a bit like Platonic spiritual love, falling in love with each other because of the beauty and inner qualities of the other party, but because of the lack of the most important material foundation, it is easy to encounter disasters, so the stability depends on the control of the spiritual side by both parties and the later construction of the material side. This kind of love is very common among teenagers and the new generation of young people, but if you look at teenagers, it means that the spiritual side itself is unstable, so you know. In my opinion, this combination that can stick to the end of life is also a diamond-like love, which lasts until death.
Off topic: Personally, I personally like this kind of love that never redeems sins.xd
These are just sociological calculations. Love in real life is much more complicated than this, but they are also the most basic and common forms.
What I want to say is not that the missing aspect of your relationship will definitely match the calculated result. What I want to say is that if you want a sincere and long-lasting love: long-lasting true love. Then both parties should learn to analyze the actual situation of your relationship. And try to make up for the missing aspects through acquired aspects.
If you can't do it, or don't want to do it, then be prepared to face difficulties. When difficulties arise, it is common that one party is willing, but the other party is unwilling.
Of course, the above are other people's sociological observations, not mine. In fact, my view on love is very simple: if you encounter a big river, build a bridge; if you encounter a high mountain, dig a tunnel; if the environment is bad, build a shelter, and if there is no good solution, face the challenge together. If it really exceeds your ability to cope, then flee together. Going through everything together and sticking together is the most lasting and sincere love.
Marriage is the continuation and crystallization of love. It is essentially no different from love. Perhaps the only difference is that marriage has more lifelong responsibilities and commitments to the partner than love. And there are many people who do not want to bear or cannot afford this responsibility.
wish all those who are in true love find their other half soon.
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