PART II: My Wife's Journey To A Black Lover
Now that you have hopefully read part 1, I want to continue with what Helen and I talked about in the den last night. After discussing Steve and how if we had known back then what we know now what could have happened since his wife left him towards the end of his tour and he had a lot of free time. This gave me an opening to see if Helen wanted to talk about her with a black man and to my surprise she was receptive.
We talked about everything including how monogamy is good when you are starting a family but that for the most part it is an outdated social construct. We both agreed if monogamy is so great why do 50% of all marriages end in divorce and we now have a belief remaining monogamous goes against human nature. We are sexual creatures and I explained to Helen I cannot pretend to believe she cannot find other men sexually attractive.
Helen was in total agreement and said the same went for me. I understood what she was saying as she said she'd even enjoy watching me with another woman which was really something she never indicated before and lets me know she is interested in this type of sexual arrangement.
We talked more about our relationship and how we want to make improvements with our own sexual relationship and a plan to achieve that goal. Helen is the submissive type and let's me take the lead so she told me that this will only happen if I help her along which was great to hear.
Intending to help Helen along I asked her to tell me more about how she feels about taking a black lover. I told her I liked the term "black lover" rather than any term because it is not vulgar. Helen was beautifully honest with me and said she approved of the term because it sounded nice and I interjected hoping for further approval and said it also takes on a note of intimacy. I further stated people seem to be tap dancing around the fact their wife is being intimate with another man. Helen replied saying some couples might not like that term but she thinks it fits how she feels about having sex with a black man, that she would rather call him "her" black lover.
When speaking about intimacy I brought up certain "rules" other couples have to Helen. I explained some rules I get, like no anal, and others like no kissing I do not get, but that I respected each couples preferences. I was quite candid and told Helen I did not want to place any restrictions on her when it came to being intimate. I was even more frank and told Helen that I understood that sexually things would be a lot different for her being with a well hung black man and that if we had that rule and in a passionate moment she was moved to the point she started kissing him, then what, do I get mad? Helen agreed with my sentiment saying being with a black man she has no idea how she may respond since she knows she can take one as a lover. TO BE CONTINUED:[/b]
We talked about everything including how monogamy is good when you are starting a family but that for the most part it is an outdated social construct. We both agreed if monogamy is so great why do 50% of all marriages end in divorce and we now have a belief remaining monogamous goes against human nature. We are sexual creatures and I explained to Helen I cannot pretend to believe she cannot find other men sexually attractive.
Helen was in total agreement and said the same went for me. I understood what she was saying as she said she'd even enjoy watching me with another woman which was really something she never indicated before and lets me know she is interested in this type of sexual arrangement.
We talked more about our relationship and how we want to make improvements with our own sexual relationship and a plan to achieve that goal. Helen is the submissive type and let's me take the lead so she told me that this will only happen if I help her along which was great to hear.
Intending to help Helen along I asked her to tell me more about how she feels about taking a black lover. I told her I liked the term "black lover" rather than any term because it is not vulgar. Helen was beautifully honest with me and said she approved of the term because it sounded nice and I interjected hoping for further approval and said it also takes on a note of intimacy. I further stated people seem to be tap dancing around the fact their wife is being intimate with another man. Helen replied saying some couples might not like that term but she thinks it fits how she feels about having sex with a black man, that she would rather call him "her" black lover.
When speaking about intimacy I brought up certain "rules" other couples have to Helen. I explained some rules I get, like no anal, and others like no kissing I do not get, but that I respected each couples preferences. I was quite candid and told Helen I did not want to place any restrictions on her when it came to being intimate. I was even more frank and told Helen that I understood that sexually things would be a lot different for her being with a well hung black man and that if we had that rule and in a passionate moment she was moved to the point she started kissing him, then what, do I get mad? Helen agreed with my sentiment saying being with a black man she has no idea how she may respond since she knows she can take one as a lover. TO BE CONTINUED:[/b]
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