TS vs TG vs CD
Ok, so some assclown sends me a PM and asks me what I think the difference is between a TS and a CD. I assume this is because I choose to "identify" myself using the TS icon in my profile. After basically giving him an answer with which he wasn't satisified, he replied that I was "just a dude in a dress." I laughed. Seriously. If only my life was that fucking simple...
So - what is the difference? Well, I suppose it depends on your perspective. For example, if you are a clinical researcher, or a mental health provider, you might look to the DSM-V for a definition. And that definition might well fit a great many people. I'm not a doc, so I am not going to get into citing the DSM, but it's there if you are interested. In my case, I choose to look at it this way. There is a marked difference between a transsexual and a cross-dresser. However, not every cross-dresser is simply a fetishist. Just the same as not every cross-dresser is a drag-queen. I am a cross-dresser who identifies strongly as transsexual because I want to transition to the body image I see when I look in the mirror, but I prefer to define myself as transgender, and the following is why.
I have self-identified as female since my earliest memories. Because I was born with a penis, natural athletic ability, and extreme aggression, I also made the choice to try to conform myself to societial norms in order to "fit in". As I grew older, and gained insight into who I am, I realized that I was strong enough, and fearless enough, to live my life the way I choose. Armed with knowledge, courage, and arrogance, I have forged ahead living my life unbound by the articial definitions of a prejudiced society. I present and dress myself how I want when I want. I also manage to be successful in my chosen avocation, and that is not the result of luck, nor chance.
I am transgender. I don't give a fuck whether that offends a transsexual, a gay/lesbian, or a straightedge. As Dexter sings, "Head over heels I've fit in before - now I don't want to do it no more. I've held it all in with blood on my face; built it up man so bad you can taste. I don't slag no one I don't even judge - don't give me shit cuz I'm not gonna budge. I just wanna be who I wanna be; guess that's hard for others to see - I'm not a trendy asshole I do what I want, do what I feel like. I'm not a trendy asshole I don't give a fuck if it's good enough for you."
I have fought, sweat, bled and earned everything I have and am. If you find that threatening to whatever your little definition of who you are may be, then maybe you need to look in the mirror and figure it the fuck out.
So - what is the difference? Well, I suppose it depends on your perspective. For example, if you are a clinical researcher, or a mental health provider, you might look to the DSM-V for a definition. And that definition might well fit a great many people. I'm not a doc, so I am not going to get into citing the DSM, but it's there if you are interested. In my case, I choose to look at it this way. There is a marked difference between a transsexual and a cross-dresser. However, not every cross-dresser is simply a fetishist. Just the same as not every cross-dresser is a drag-queen. I am a cross-dresser who identifies strongly as transsexual because I want to transition to the body image I see when I look in the mirror, but I prefer to define myself as transgender, and the following is why.
I have self-identified as female since my earliest memories. Because I was born with a penis, natural athletic ability, and extreme aggression, I also made the choice to try to conform myself to societial norms in order to "fit in". As I grew older, and gained insight into who I am, I realized that I was strong enough, and fearless enough, to live my life the way I choose. Armed with knowledge, courage, and arrogance, I have forged ahead living my life unbound by the articial definitions of a prejudiced society. I present and dress myself how I want when I want. I also manage to be successful in my chosen avocation, and that is not the result of luck, nor chance.
I am transgender. I don't give a fuck whether that offends a transsexual, a gay/lesbian, or a straightedge. As Dexter sings, "Head over heels I've fit in before - now I don't want to do it no more. I've held it all in with blood on my face; built it up man so bad you can taste. I don't slag no one I don't even judge - don't give me shit cuz I'm not gonna budge. I just wanna be who I wanna be; guess that's hard for others to see - I'm not a trendy asshole I do what I want, do what I feel like. I'm not a trendy asshole I don't give a fuck if it's good enough for you."
I have fought, sweat, bled and earned everything I have and am. If you find that threatening to whatever your little definition of who you are may be, then maybe you need to look in the mirror and figure it the fuck out.
10 年 前
There are some people that will just never understand.
I've been 'lucky' enough to never have this issue, but have been close with those that feel this way.
You are the only one who gets to define who/what you are.
Good for you.
I lived with a transwoman for over 16 years, and she more or less just identified as a woman. Initially, it was more TG, then later on, as it became more "socially acceptable" amongst the politically correct crowd, TS. But eventually, she just dropped the labels.
Actually, that's my take and I have many friends on Flickr and some here who know that in my book, labels are for cans... so you don't get creamed corn when you're looking for baked beans... not that there's anything wrong with either, but you get my drift.
The most important thing, at least in my view, is to be comfortable with who you are yourself. Whether anyone else likes it or not really doesn't matter, unless you're in some type of relationship - friends, family, lovers, coworkers, even seated next to each other on an airliner. Other than that - and for most of those, too - it's nobody's concern except yours.
Keep on keepin' on, as they used to say...
Best,
D