Preventing Embarrassment Is Actually This Simple.
Let's face it... When people ask you the same identical questions which are answered on your profile... It's annoying. Very annoying.
Being a sex worker, comes with special caveats. One of those, is doing everything in your power to ensure everyone who makes contact with you via one of the many online mediums, does so with the full knowledge of your somewhat unique employment situation.
This is why the "About Me" section in my profile reads more like a novel, than a brief personal description.
I do not believe in tricking anyone. If someone is interested in obtaining my services, they will seek me out. I believe strongly that anyone who messages me has a right to know the truth. I'm not interested in non-compensated situations... Late discovery of this information can potentially lead to disappointment, an outcome I view as unacceptable.
When men don't read my profile, they have no idea what I am all about. They have no way of knowing I'm not here for casual sex. Period. This puts both themselves and me in the midst of a very awkward echange which could have been so easily avoided.
It's like this... I've done my part, by creating a thorough and detailed profile, the least you could do in return is take the five minutes required to read it... Please?
Aspects of my true life story may shock you...
I am actually a happily married woman and have been for nearly seven years. Outside of the activities in which I'm involved while carrying out the duties of my job, I am 110% monogamous. Therefore, I couldn't be a worse match for a great deal of the men who message me.
My profile couldn't possibly make my intentions on XRMXX any clearer than it does. I've never tried to fool anyone, or pretend to be something I am not. The "About" section of my profile, goes very in-depth, and I've tried to write out and include a very comprehensive overview of both myself, and my services.
Now, if there were just a way to get you guys to read it!
The vast majority of those who message, completely unaware they are about to encounter a real-life prostitute, rarely react in a disrespectful manner. They are usually apologetic for their oversight.
However, there are some who have read my profile beforehand, only becoming enraged toward me, after I refuse to see them "off the clock". Some have berated me for my choice of occupation, while others have gone as far as to accuse me of "trapping" innocent men, by using a form of "covert entrapment", (whatever that means) and wrongfully accusing me of being guilty of "online solicitation".
The best reactions are from those who switch from "love your curves" when they think they might get what they want, over to "fuck you, fat cow!" once it becomes obvious I'm not playing games.
I've never once solicited a single person in the five years I've worked as an escort, neither here, nor anywhere else for that matter. Clients always make the first contact with me. To do it any other way, is simply going out of your way to make either your life, or the life of your client, a lot more complicated than needed.
I simply put a discreet notice of my availability out into the world. Those who are interested, I encorage to reply. However, there is nothing which forces you to reply. If it deeply offends your sensibilities that I am a sex worker, the best course of action is none at all. Ignore my notice. Continue searching for someone who is offering what you seek.
Unfortunately, many men seem to think for whatever reason, that I'm desperate, or that I'll be an easy score. The truth is that neither of these situations are reflective of actual reality, and when I am forced to break it down for them, they can get nasty... Simply because they had the wrong idea, not because I somehow "entrapped" them in my invisible web of lllicit prostitution.
Let me emphasize that this is an obnoxious minority. Most of those who contact me are very sweet, understanding, and respectful of myself as well as my occupation... Albeit, most had no idea who I was, or what I do for a living, and spend most of their time chatting with me, involved in embarrassed apology...
A situation which could have been completely avoided, had they only read my profile!
Let me close with this... While a picture might be worth a thousand words, rarely are those words going to be "expects to be compensated", or "not here looking for cam2cam, a quick hook-up or that special LTR". You can only find those sort of details hidden amongst the written portion of my profile... When you read it! ;)
Being a sex worker, comes with special caveats. One of those, is doing everything in your power to ensure everyone who makes contact with you via one of the many online mediums, does so with the full knowledge of your somewhat unique employment situation.
This is why the "About Me" section in my profile reads more like a novel, than a brief personal description.
I do not believe in tricking anyone. If someone is interested in obtaining my services, they will seek me out. I believe strongly that anyone who messages me has a right to know the truth. I'm not interested in non-compensated situations... Late discovery of this information can potentially lead to disappointment, an outcome I view as unacceptable.
When men don't read my profile, they have no idea what I am all about. They have no way of knowing I'm not here for casual sex. Period. This puts both themselves and me in the midst of a very awkward echange which could have been so easily avoided.
It's like this... I've done my part, by creating a thorough and detailed profile, the least you could do in return is take the five minutes required to read it... Please?
Aspects of my true life story may shock you...
I am actually a happily married woman and have been for nearly seven years. Outside of the activities in which I'm involved while carrying out the duties of my job, I am 110% monogamous. Therefore, I couldn't be a worse match for a great deal of the men who message me.
My profile couldn't possibly make my intentions on XRMXX any clearer than it does. I've never tried to fool anyone, or pretend to be something I am not. The "About" section of my profile, goes very in-depth, and I've tried to write out and include a very comprehensive overview of both myself, and my services.
Now, if there were just a way to get you guys to read it!
The vast majority of those who message, completely unaware they are about to encounter a real-life prostitute, rarely react in a disrespectful manner. They are usually apologetic for their oversight.
However, there are some who have read my profile beforehand, only becoming enraged toward me, after I refuse to see them "off the clock". Some have berated me for my choice of occupation, while others have gone as far as to accuse me of "trapping" innocent men, by using a form of "covert entrapment", (whatever that means) and wrongfully accusing me of being guilty of "online solicitation".
The best reactions are from those who switch from "love your curves" when they think they might get what they want, over to "fuck you, fat cow!" once it becomes obvious I'm not playing games.
I've never once solicited a single person in the five years I've worked as an escort, neither here, nor anywhere else for that matter. Clients always make the first contact with me. To do it any other way, is simply going out of your way to make either your life, or the life of your client, a lot more complicated than needed.
I simply put a discreet notice of my availability out into the world. Those who are interested, I encorage to reply. However, there is nothing which forces you to reply. If it deeply offends your sensibilities that I am a sex worker, the best course of action is none at all. Ignore my notice. Continue searching for someone who is offering what you seek.
Unfortunately, many men seem to think for whatever reason, that I'm desperate, or that I'll be an easy score. The truth is that neither of these situations are reflective of actual reality, and when I am forced to break it down for them, they can get nasty... Simply because they had the wrong idea, not because I somehow "entrapped" them in my invisible web of lllicit prostitution.
Let me emphasize that this is an obnoxious minority. Most of those who contact me are very sweet, understanding, and respectful of myself as well as my occupation... Albeit, most had no idea who I was, or what I do for a living, and spend most of their time chatting with me, involved in embarrassed apology...
A situation which could have been completely avoided, had they only read my profile!
Let me close with this... While a picture might be worth a thousand words, rarely are those words going to be "expects to be compensated", or "not here looking for cam2cam, a quick hook-up or that special LTR". You can only find those sort of details hidden amongst the written portion of my profile... When you read it! ;)
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