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A heterosexual middle aged white man (surprise surprise), slim build, tall, in reasonable shape, here to find eroticism and to amass a collection of 'favourite' films and pictures—and especially posts—over time. I am in no hurry.

I will always post a comment on my 'favourites', to give a sense of what attracted me to them. Also, importantly, to express my sincere appreciation to the creator of the work, when appropriate. Some solo creator content can be very powerful, to the extent that I believe some creators are artists of arousal. I hope to elaborate upon this in time (see below).

I am not deluded. I seriously doubt anyone would be impressed with my physiognomy so I will not be uploading videos of myself. And anyway, apparently this site now requires creators of content to pretty much sign their lives away as 'verification' before uploading is even possible, and this is a massive disincentive to 'share' on data protection grounds alone.

Regarding what I am setting out to do here, rest assured I am no purveyor of arrested-development-male commentary. So many men here seem to be stuck in some gormless adolescent vortex, an eroticism vacuum. Rudeness, hate and misogyny will never appear in my backwater of XH. I value consent. Playing with the boundaries is of course very erotic in some relationship dynamics, and a wonderful thing to look at and read about, but consent is ultimately the bottom line. This is a place to be polite in the first instance. Then things can develop in unpredictable ways. Chemistry is crucial.

I am also here to write in the 'posts' section. I have a lot to say, or rather to work out, as regards my own attitude to sex and pornography. So I hope the process of writing here will help. However, it seems few people read nowadays, or take time to engage meaningfully with words. Accordingly, people who express eroticism in written form are definitely in the minority on this site but I hope to encounter some in time, perhaps even to correspond with one or two, though that's not a priority. I would love a frank, intelligent exchange with a like minded woman who enjoys expressing herself in written form (I have so many questions!). But, as stated above, that's not the important thing for me here. Many people find words arousing. It is the pictures that they encourage in the imagination... After all, true arousal is always in the mind. Especially (but by no means exclusively) for women.

This is a place of fantasy, of the hidden world of desires made visible and frank and unashamedly open in a way that is not always possible in the 'real' world.

Given most people's impatience with words nowadays, if you have read this far, you are probably a like mind.

Good wishes to all.

N.B. Nobody, from any research institution, agency or any private individual, has my permission to use any of the material I post here, visual or written, unless I grant it explicitly. 'Favourite' videos and posts are gathered from XH in good faith and will be removed from my profile on reasonable request. Any external links I use are also made in good faith and similarly will be removed on reasonable request. No copyright infringement is intended and no profit is made from my presence here.